what to do.

I was at a restaraunt and there was a clipboard filled with people's names and a number next to the name. I wrote "Miller 2", set the clipboard down, and waited. Some of the names and numbers were scratched out - I assumed they were the ones I could see eating where my wife and I would be eating too soon.

As more people arrived, we just watched. Some stared flummoxed. Others looked around. Some said "What do we do?" Others said "Are we just supposed to sign this?" Others "Is this how you get your name on the list?"

Guess what?

Sometimes it's just that simple and makes that much sense.  But we've been programmed differently and if it doesn't fit our programming we suddenly on't know what to do, even though what to do couldn't be more obvious.

the law.

Do you want the law or what the law produces?

In other words, would you rather have a law that bans abortions or, simply, less abortions? 
Would you rather have a law that bans guns or, simply less mass and accidental shootings? 

The U.S. economy has had job gains for the past 75 months. 
Violent crime in the U.S. in 2015 is half of what it was in 1991. 
Abortion in the U.S. is at the lowest rate since 1974. 
Welfare and food stamp recipients are at their lowest levels in years. 

I wonder how much more interesting and productive conversations would be if we talked less about laws and more about results, which sometimes correlate and sometimes don't. 

trump.

Well today we officially make Trump our president and I couldn't be with a better group of people to celebrate: hundreds of LGBTQ pilots in Palm Springs. 

I doubt there will be much cheering, or laughing, or excitement. But, there will be a reminder that, at the end of the day, a president doesn't really control much of how I live in this world for good or bad. That's up to me. 

the pledge.

While we're on interesting facts, did you know the United States is the only country that I can find (besides North Korea) that encourages elementary students to pledge allegiance to a flag every day? 

Many countries don't even have a pledge. Many more find it unbelievable that a country has its citizens pledge to a flag. Most Americans find it offensive if you don't. 

All very interesting. 

hero discount.

We were recently at a doctor's office that gives a "hero's discount" to members of the military, fire, and police departments. 

Not a problem. I've been on airplanes where people are encouraged to applaud members of the military and I'm not sure there is a store that doesn't have a military discount. That's all great. Fine and dandy. 

Just a simple question: have you ever been to a doctor's office that gives a hero's discount to teacher? Oncology nurses? Pediatric doctors? Counselors? 

I haven't.

That's a problem. 

iRuin the Mood.

In Hatha, we always end with Shavasana: on our back, focusing on the present, relaxing, being grateful, quiet... it's one of my favorite times of the day and we are encouraged to stay there for as long as it takes. 

I was there. Full relaxation and restoration. Then I heard the Apple Watch next to me. Ding. Ding. Ding! What the hell is it dinging? That the owner has exercised today? A text? 

Then, a phone started ringing with the familiar iTune diddy that reminds us that someone needs us. Someone yelled out "Well, Shavasana is done." There were some groans and laughter. 

And, as I got up, someone else was laying on their side, staring at their phone. 

The metaphors were endless. 

Can I just say it again? 

Put down the damn phone! Leave the watch somewhere else! Yes, you may not get points for your workout and you may miss a critical text but you will start living. 

to lose.

We are not made to lose. We never like it. It never feels good. That's okay.  

You don't need to like losing. You just need to know what game you are playing.

screwed up.

It's generally not considered a good thing. Well, it's generally considered a bad thing.

Those words can mean a lot but whatever the definition... maybe we are supposed to be?

We are good. We were created good. We should be good. And screwed up. 

define or defy.

If you're defining something, you are, by default, defying something else. 

If you're defying something, you are, by nature, defining something else. 

But it's easier to defy than define. Defy is the first, and easy, step. It says that's not my definition. 

It's more difficult to define. That takes another moment. This is how I see it and believe it. 

Define more. You still get the defiance but it's more purposeful and evolutionary rather than just bitter. 

everything and nothing.

I want everything. I want nothing. 

Neither is ideal. 

But, there are many who believe that wanting nothing is more honorable or moral than wanting everything. It's not. 

Neither asks for risk, for sacrifice, for a decision, or for an opinion. They are both lazy, easy, and apathetic. 

Want something. Go get it. Own it. Defend it. 

breathe in.

We end every Yoga with a little meditation. The other day I was focusing on exhaling fear and inhaling love. 

Exhale. Fear. Inhale. Love. 

And I couldn't help but go to some big decisions. Exhale. Fear. Inhale. Love. As I thought through those decisions... exhale... fear... inhale... love...  it was amazing how clear the decisions became. 

Once you remove fear from discernment and get that fear replaced with love, it really does bring some clarity. Not always, but often. 

Try it. 

your control.

What you control: you. That's the good news. 

What you don't control: anyone and everything besides you. That's the bad news. 

But more good news: Everything and anyone is always and only perceived and experienced by you.

Not what. How.

It's not what you're doing, it's how. 

There are a lot of people spending a lot of time trying to figure out what to do and don't know how to do it when they get there. If that's the case, what may never show up. 

There are some who are trying to figure out how to do it, no matter what it is. If that's the case, what may be everywhere. 

these two will kill your chances.

Finding a partner, a job, finishing a project, or anything else in life. 

Infinite options and perfection will kill everything.

Neither exist, but we think they do. 

So, make your options smaller, more finite, and set your bar lower than perfection... at very good... and you'll be amazed at what starts to happen.  

yoga and martinis.

I was recently at a Yoga class and the instructor said, if you're not doing Yoga a particular way, it's not Yoga. It's called Yoga and people pretend it's yoga, but it's not. There are whole studios dedicated to yoga that aren't practicing yoga. 

Just know what you're getting because yoga is this.... 

My wife was recently at a cocktail making class and the bartender said martinis are only gin or vodka and vermouth. (Maybe an olive.) But, if it's more than that, it's not a martini. There are whole martini bars that are serving things called martinis but they aren't martinis. 

Just know what you're getting because martinis are this... 

I was recently at a church...

it's catchy.

But so is the flu. 

The better question is probably does this make me more energized, inspired and excited or more tired, drained, and apathetic. 

... doesn't suck.

D.O. started a line of shirts/stickers/etc... with the line  "Spokane Doesn't Suck".  He's a great guy and I love what he's doing.   

It's true. Spokane doesn't suck...

...but if it's pretty bad and if it sure isn't awesome, well, who cares if it doesn't suck? That can't be our goal, right? 

Lots of things don't suck and I see more people thinking that not sucking is the line. 

My job doesn't suck. 
My friends don't suck. 
My art doesn't suck. 
My marriage doesn't suck. 
My life doesn't suck.

My faith doesn't suck. 

If you're shooting for not sucking... join the mediocre of the world. 

Or raise the damn bar. 

lazy.

Social media is lazy. You didn't build the platform or the audience. You are just supporting a corporation that has built the audience and platform for you, to make you feel like you did. They're making you lazy, so they make money. 

Don't buy what they are selling.

I realize it's tempting. I've given in many times. But, take the time, the energy, and the resources to build your own platform and audience. It's much more difficult and time consuming but, an audience of 3 that you have built, is worth more than an audience of 3,000 that doesn't care. 

two questions.

There are two possibilities for your relationships. 

Does it make you better? 

Is it required?  

If the answer to both of these is no, there is a third question: when are you going to end it?

read more.

If you want to change the world, read a book. 

If you haven't found a book you can't put down, keep looking. They are out there. 

If you have, find another one. 

If you need some suggestions, you can definitely start here. But, don't end there. 

If you don't think you need to read, you're right, Facebook, Instagram, YouTube and Netflix will entertain you forever. 

But, if you want to change the world, read a book.