ask. ask. ask.

This is maybe the most obvious thought ever, and yet before I got there I was truly confounded for years. (which might just say how dumb I am.)

But… I love to learn. Debate. Have deep conversations. I’ve also learned so many times that giving speeches, or my point of view is rarely the best way to convince anyone of anything. Asking questions is always better.

But… if I’m just asking questions, then why should I learn anything. I can always say “and then?”

And then it finally hit me. You learn in order to ask better questions. You can still put all of that good learning to use, including the learning that it’s better to ask questions, and just ask the best questions. Still not leading, not trying to make a point, but just really good questions that make the other person think - which is the whole point all along anyway. You can spot their answers, know their weaknesses, and ask the kinds of questions that probe at those.

And learn a lot in the meantime.

Learn. Ask. Learn. Ask. Learn.

I can handle that.